Awareness. Most often we do these social comparisons without realizing we’re doing it. It’s a natural act, I suppose, and as a result it’s something that is done without consciousness. So the solution is to become conscious — bring these thoughts to the forefront of your consciousness by being on the lookout for them. If you focus on these thoughts for a few days, it gets much easier with practice, and soon it’ll be hard not to notice.

注意它。我們經(jīng)常沒有意識(shí)到這種比較的發(fā)生，我認(rèn)為這是自然行為，這是由于有些行為是無(wú)意識(shí)的。所以解決辦法是注意它，有意識(shí)的留意這種思想出現(xiàn)時(shí)的意識(shí)變化。如果堅(jiān)持一段時(shí)間注意這種意識(shí)的變化，那么想不注意都不行了，也就容易實(shí)踐了。

Stop yourself. Once you realize you’re doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. Don’t berate yourself or feel bad — just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus.

管住自己：當(dāng)你意識(shí)到自己在進(jìn)行這種比較時(shí)，請(qǐng)自己停下來(lái)。不要責(zé)備自己或感覺不好，只要意識(shí)到自己的想法，并溫和的轉(zhuǎn)移注意力就可以了。

Stop yourself. Once you realize you’re doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. Don’t berate yourself or feel bad — just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus.

管住自己：當(dāng)你意識(shí)到自己在進(jìn)行這種比較時(shí)，請(qǐng)自己停下來(lái)。不要責(zé)備自己或感覺不好，只要意識(shí)到自己的想法，并溫和的轉(zhuǎn)移注意力就可以了。

Count your blessings. A better focus is on what you do have, on what you are already blessed with. Count what you have, not what you don’t. Think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you, to be alive at all.

珍惜你所擁有的。一個(gè)更好的辦法是看看自己所擁有的，而不是總?cè)ハ肽切┳约簺]有的。想想你是多么幸運(yùn)的擁有了這一切，出現(xiàn)在你生命中珍惜你的和值得你珍惜的人。

Focus on your strengths. Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. Celebrate them! Be proud of them. Don’t brag, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage.

重視自己的優(yōu)點(diǎn)。多注意自己的優(yōu)點(diǎn)，而不是一直看到弱點(diǎn)。慶幸你所擁有的優(yōu)點(diǎn)，為此而自豪！不要驕傲，但可以運(yùn)用這些優(yōu)點(diǎn)在工作和生活中做得更加出色。

Be OK with imperfection. No one is perfect — intellectually, we all know that, but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don’t reach perfection. You aren’t perfect and you never will be. I certainly am not, and I’ve learned to be OK with that. Sure, keep trying to improve, but don’t think you’ll ever be the “perfect person”. If you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect.

釋懷那些不完美。事實(shí)上，我們都知道沒有人是完美的，但是情感上當(dāng)沒有達(dá)到完美時(shí)我們會(huì)感覺不好。你不完美，而且永遠(yuǎn)也不會(huì)完美，我當(dāng)然也是，但我學(xué)會(huì)了釋懷那些不完美。當(dāng)然，繼續(xù)努力，但不要總想著你永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)完美這件事。如果你能從另一個(gè)角度看待它，其實(shí)是這些缺點(diǎn)讓你成為今天的你，這本身就是完美的。

Be OK with imperfection. No one is perfect — intellectually, we all know that, but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don’t reach perfection. You aren’t perfect and you never will be. I certainly am not, and I’ve learned to be OK with that. Sure, keep trying to improve, but don’t think you’ll ever be the “perfect person”. If you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect.

釋懷那些不完美。事實(shí)上，我們都知道沒有人是完美的，但是情感上當(dāng)沒有達(dá)到完美時(shí)我們會(huì)感覺不好。你不完美，而且永遠(yuǎn)也不會(huì)完美，我當(dāng)然也是，但我學(xué)會(huì)了釋懷那些不完美。當(dāng)然，繼續(xù)努力，但不要總想著你永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)完美這件事。如果你能從另一個(gè)角度看待它，其實(shí)是這些缺點(diǎn)讓你成為今天的你，這本身就是完美的。

Don’t knock others down. Sometimes we try to criticize others just to make ourselves look or feel better. Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive. It forms an enemy when you could be forming a friend. In the end, that hurts you as well. Instead, try to support others in their success — that will lead to more success on your part.

不要打擊別人。有時(shí)我們會(huì)通過(guò)批評(píng)別人的方式來(lái)使自己感覺更好，這種做法是極具破壞性的，這將使你得罪一個(gè)人而非得到一個(gè)朋友，最后，只是傷害了自己。相反，我們應(yīng)該在別人取得成績(jī)時(shí)支持他，這也會(huì)使你得到更大的滿足。

Focus on the journey. Don’t focus on how you rank in comparison to others — life is not a competition. It’s a journey. We are all on a journey, to find something, to become something, to learn, to create. That journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have. It has everything to do with what we want to do, and where we want to go. That’s all you need to worry about.

注重過(guò)程。不要在意你在比較中的排名，生活不是競(jìng)賽，而是一段旅程。我們都在生活中尋找，努力，學(xué)習(xí)，創(chuàng)造。別人所擁有和取得的對(duì)我們自己的旅程都不重要，自己想要做什么或想去哪才是最重要的，這才是生活要考慮和關(guān)注的問題。

Learn to love enough. If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. You will always want more. That’s an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness. No matter how many clothes you buy, no matter how many houses you own (seven, in the case of one famous candidate), no matter how many fancy cars you acquire … you’ll never have enough. Instead, learn to realize that what you have is already enough. If you have shelter over your head, food on the table, clothes on your back, and people who love you, you are blessed. You have enough. Anything you have over and above that — and let’s admit that all of us reading this blog have more than that — is more than enough. Be good with that, and you’ll find contentment.

學(xué)會(huì)享受滿足。如果你總是想要?jiǎng)e人的東西，那永遠(yuǎn)也不會(huì)滿足，你總是想要更多，這是一個(gè)無(wú)休止的循環(huán)，你永遠(yuǎn)也不會(huì)快樂。無(wú)論你買多少衣服，有多少房產(chǎn)，有多少靚車，你都不會(huì)滿足。相反，去看看自己所擁有的，如果你有一個(gè)可遮風(fēng)擋雨的小窩，豐衣足食，愛著你的人，那么你很幸運(yùn)。你擁有的已經(jīng)足夠了，讓我們承認(rèn)能夠讀到這篇博文你擁有的已經(jīng)是非常幸運(yùn)了。享受這一切，你會(huì)更加滿足。

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